Thursday, 24 September 2015

BORDA - The Big Brother

Dr. Bishnupada Pal Choudhury, MBBS, DOMS, MS, - the illegible letters after the name had me in complete awe. I was probably in my late teens, still in college aiming to earn an engineering degree. One day, at a private moment, I quietly asked him to decipher the muddle. He did and I realized how much of hard work had gone behind earning those letters. Later, three more letters would find their legitimate place after the name, - PHD. But that is another story. 

This was Borda (pron. Bawrdaa). Being the eldest grandchild of late Ishwar Chandra and Madhumalati Deb, he was the big brother of our generation, - our Borda. We all looked up to him. My parents, his mejomama and mejomami were very fond of him. My mother particularly will cite the examples of her “Biju” as a benchmark for me. My father, not very eloquent by nature, would beam with pride every time his name and achievements were mentioned. 

76 A, Upper Circular Road in Rajabajar was an unofficial base or headquarters of our family. A cosy abode maintained by my Kaku and Kakima (Uncle and Aunt) sheltered many friends and relatives. During one of my summer holidays, while I was still in high school, I had the pleasure of Borda’s exclusive company and spent some memorable time with him. He was a medical student, probably on a holiday. I remember a few long chat sessions. I wonder whether Borda’s children (Purba and Pushaun) are aware that those days, he was very fond of cowboy movies. He narrated several stories to me like that of a bounty hunter, who drew his gun in a flash, while riding a horse, and shot down a rogue, who terrorized a whole town. I listened wide eyed.  

One Sunday morning, he sought my parents’ permission to take me out to watch a film. The permission was granted immediately. I was so excited. The film was Robin Hood. That probably was the first English film I watched ever.  

He had a flare for languages. While he was studying in King George Medical College in Lucknow, he picked a bit of Urdu too. If I remember right, he spoke Assamese fluently as well. 

Memories are blurred now. All these stories are not in chronological order but random flashes of memory. He gifted me a shirt on his return from abroad after one of his academic pursuits, which I treasured and sported only on very special occasions.  

His transformation to the world of literature and art was a very pleasant surprise. In my later life, I realized how much knowledge he had gathered during his life. However, by this time, our meetings were brief and infrequent. It is indeed a matter of great regret that I never had the opportunity to discuss with him the hobbies and passions that he indulged in during his mature years. Some of his recent books reflect his spiritual side as well. I wish I could tell him in person how much we all admired him and his life. 

On a lighter note, I remember during my early days, when Borda was probably the most eligible bachelor on this side of the Atlantic, my mother was approached by several parents for obvious reason. My mother would reject all such proposals as those would-be-brides did not deserve her Biju. She was right. At the end, the most deserving one became my boudi. 

Love you Borda. Be happy wherever you are.
 

Siddhartha Deb, Kolkata, 20 Nov 2015

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